In Part 1 of this relationship blog series, I talked about how to nurture your kids and family through travel, but more importantly, the importance of nurturing your relationship.
In Part 2, I’m going to talk about how travel can not only be relaxing and offer some quality time with your better-half, but how it can inspire you and improve your relationship!
** If you missed The Importance of the Jet Set Couple: Part 1, click here to read it.
Often, couples and especially families, get wrapped up with the day to day life and an exotic vacation is just a dream. And, for most of American suburbia, a yearly vacation usually means an all-inclusive or possibly a trip to a beach resort. Now, it’s definitely not up to me to choose the type of vacation people take, but from talking with friends, family and even random people, most play it safe and don’t explore options “outside their bubble” as it’s their “one-week off”. I get that, but that doesn’t mean you need to limit your experiences. Vacations are a perfect time to explore new things, try new activities, sports and maybe uncover hidden talents (and by that I don’t mean Thursday Night Resort Karaoke!).
Now just for a moment, let me interject a story that can explain my position a bit clearer.
In the summer of 2011, Rob and I went to Mykonos for our annual trip. While there, we decided to go to a club called Cavo Paradiso. We had been once before, and enjoyed it, but really wanted to hit a big party at Cavo this time and get a different experience. At that time, he couldn’t name a DJ other than those on the radio, like David Guetta, playing with huge stars, like The Black Eyed Peas. He asked our Greek friends and found out that a guy named Tiesto was going to be the biggest party of the summer. As luck would have it, we’d be there! So, we bought tickets and went. That one night with Tiesto was not only fun, it inspired him, actually it changed him. Men need to have new mountains to climb, new dragons to slay. They need to be constantly working toward achieving a larger goal. Call it what you like, say they’re never happy, but this drive is what we, as women, love about our men. Yet, I often hear women who’ve been married complaining about “why can’t their men ever just be happy with where they are?”. Simply put, it’s not in their DNA.
Fast forward now, one-year later. My husband, previously inspired by that one night at the Tiesto party in Mykonos is now in a deep love-affair with electronic music. He’s decided to not just admire the music, but to go vertical and has hired a local DJ to teach him how to DJ. Now, he’s planning to attend the world’s largest DJ workshop. He truly loves the music – not the party – not the goal of notoriety – but the art, the creation, the mixing and definitely excitement of being able to mix multiple songs into something beautiful.
When we tell friends and family about his new hobby, we just mixed responses. Some think he’s nuts, others appreciate his passion. As his wife of many years, I could have said one of two things. Either, I could have responded in, what I believe would be the way most wives would and question why this 46-year old man having this “mid-life crisis” and mock his desire to learn how to be a DJ. Or, I could realize that this is his next mountain, and whether I think it’s silly or not, whether I understand it or not, I stand behind him, support him and encourage him to follow his passions. I obviously, chose the later. I encourage him to not just attend the DJ festival, but also the workshops held days earlier. I bought him his DJ set-up for his birthday and are in the process of creating a “DJ room” in our home for him to practice.
Now, you may be asking, what does this have to do with travel and getting “outside your bubble”. Simple – if we hadn’t taken the chance to experience a party with a DJ we never had heard of, he would have never been inspired to DJ, something that he now loves.
Let’s be honest, with our children we try all kinds of things to see what inspires them. Everything from art classes to gymnastics to instruments and sports. Just because your 40 and not 4, doesn’t mean you can’t uncover new talents, passions or dreams. And, if you don’t get outside your box and explore new things as an adult, you never will. Life will get dull, stale and you’ll be in a true mid-life crisis opting for the cliché red convertible!
What does this have to do with travel? Yes, you can uncover new and exciting things in your day to day life, but most of us are on a schedule, so making the time for exploring new hobbies rarely happens. But on vacations with no schedule, exploring your passions is limitless!
(Another thing he learned he loved on vacation was scooter-ing! In fact, when he returned home from our trip in Sicily where he scooter-ed everywhere, he sold his 911 Porsche and bought a $2k scooter! Why? Because the freedom he feels scooter-ing around town is what he loves.)
I have two points.
Point #1: Never stop exploring. Never stop finding new inspirations. Never stop trying new things, new foods, new cultures and new hobbies. What’s the worst thing that happens? You find out that you don’t like to swim with dolphins, so what! You tried! You never know what will inspire you and uncover a part of your self you never knew existed. This will 100% increase your zest for life!
Point #2: Support the people you love in their dreams and desires, even if you don’t understand them. Learn to understand why they love something, what new mountain they want to climb or what they want to accomplish. If the tables were turned, you’d want to have that support too!